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Entrusted http://www.entrustedministries.com/blog.aspx?site_id=10186&blog_id=26648 EN-US Copyright © 2012 Entrusted Ministries http://www.triplePixel.com Fri, 18 May 2012 09:00:00 GMT Entrusted Ministries Entrusted Ministries Entrusted Ministrieskristi@entrustedministries.com no Faith Reformed Church — Dyer, IN http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=300141http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=300141 Fri, 18 May 2012 14:00:00 GMT <img alt="" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/dyer%20indiana%20mops.jpg" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" />Betsy and Nancy recently enjoyed meeting the ladies at Faith Reformed Church in Dyer, Indiana. Betsy had the opportunity to speak to three different groups about the value of motherhood. She encouraged the women to make the most of every opportunity to nurture and train their children and to seek ways to connect with them daily. In addition, she challenged the ladies to honor their own parents because God's Word commands it and one day our children will follow our example in this regard. It was great to meet these wonderful women! Betsy and Nancy recently enjoyed meeting the ladies at Faith Reformed Church in Dyer, Indiana. Betsy had the opportunity to speak to three different groups about the value of motherhood. She encouraged the women to make the most of every opportunity to nurture and train their children and to seek ways to connect with them daily. In addition, she challenged the ladies to honor their own parents because God's Word commands it and one day our children will follow our example in this regard. It was great to meet these wonderful women! Mother's Day Tribute http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=299363http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=299363 Fri, 11 May 2012 13:00:00 GMT <img alt="" width="250" height="250" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/kristi%20mom.jpg" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" longdesc="Mom with two of her grandchildren." />There are many things I learned growing up with Mom and many others I'm discovering still today. As I think back to consider, "How would Mom have done this?" I find myself remembering with new insight the ways she did. One thing I realize is that, although Mom consistently disciplined us, she didn't get overly-focused on her role in behavior management (like I sometimes can with my own children). Instead, she seemed to have a fuller picture of the kind of parent God had called her to be. Here are some of the best lessons and gifts my mom has given to me: <ul> <li>Availability. When I got home from school, she was there ready to hear about my day—ready to spend time with me or feed me a quick snack on my way out the door (usually to ride on my neon-green, banana-seat bike with my friends).</li> <li>Attention. She was (and still is) a great listener. She knew when to speak up with some well-timed, good advice about friendship, big-banged-80's beauty and the like, but she also seemed to know when to just listen attentively while I sorted things out on my own.</li> <li>Love. Mom frequently gave me words of affection and encouragement as a child. Good, strong hugs (complete with southern-style back pats) were also available in large supply around Mom. Even our friends knew they could get a good "Mom Hug" from her whenever they needed one.</li> <li>Example. She lived out what she wanted me to live—even more than she talked with me about it. She modeled values like patience, humility, forgiveness, and service.</li> <li>Trust. My mom genuinely believed the best about me. I remember hearing her often say, "I know Kristi; she'll do the right thing," or, "She'll make a good decision." This positive expectation (whether or not I'd really deserved it) shaped what I thought about and expected from myself.</li> <li>Forgiveness. She wasn't perfect, and when she did make a mistake, she came to us and asked for our forgiveness. She was also quick to grant forgiveness to us when we needed it.</li> <li>Involvement. Mom knew our friends well from spending time at our activities and from frequently having them over to our home. She fed and loved on all of them well!</li> <li>Relationships with Others. She and Dad fostered our relationships with older, godly role models, by inviting our youth leaders over for meals and/or game nights. They also modeled how to love people well by taking us along when they would deliver meals, visit people in the hospital, or attend funerals. My brother and I learned many lessons in compassion by watching our parents interact with others like this.</li> <li>Valuing God and His Word. Mom demonstrated the value of spending time in God's Word by doing it regularly herself. I have many memories of her at her desk reading and praying. We also regularly read from the Bible together as a family. As a young child, I didn't always understand what was read, but I always knew that it was important.</li> <li>Prayer. One of the most valuable ways Mom invested in our lives was to pray for us and with us. Even to this day, she lifts up our family's specific needs, faithfully praying through passages of Scripture, claiming God's promises and asking for His guidance and provision in our lives.</li> </ul> Mom has done these and many other things exceptionally well in her parenting and now in her grandparenting (see picture above). Her love, prayers, and example led me through my childhood years and continue to guide me today by shaping my idea of the kind of mom I want to be to my own children. Happy Mother's Day to my mom, who continues to be an incredible blessing in my life. I love you, Mom! ________________________________________ Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: “Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.” Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. -- Proverbs 31:25-30 There are many things I learned growing up with Mom and many others I'm discovering still today. As I think back to consider, "How would Mom have done this?" I find myself remembering with new insight the ways she did. One thing I realize is that, although Mom consistently disciplined us, she didn't get overly-focused on her role in behavior management (like I sometimes can with my own children). Instead, she seemed to have a fuller picture of the kind of parent God had called her to be. Here are some of the best lessons and gifts my mom has given to me: Availability . When I got home from school, she was there ready to hear about my day—ready to spend time with me or feed me a quick snack on my way out the door (usually to ride on my neon-green, banana-seat bike with my friends). Attention. She was (and still is) a great listener. She knew when to speak up with some well-timed, good advice about friendship, big-banged-80's beauty and the like, but she also seemed to know when to just listen attentively while I sorted things out on my own. Love. Mom frequently gave me words of affection and encouragement as a child. Good, strong hugs (complete with southern-style back pats) were also available in large supply around Mom. Even our friends knew they could get a good "Mom Hug" from her whenever they needed one. Example. She lived out what she wanted me to live—even more than she talked with me about it. She modeled values like patience, humility, forgiveness, and service. Trust. My mom genuinely believed the best about me. I remember hearing her often say, "I know Kristi; she'll do the right thing," or, "She'll make a good decision." This positive expectation (whether or not I'd really deserved it) shaped what I thought about and expected from myself. Forgiveness. She wasn't perfect, and when she did make a mistake, she came to us and asked for our forgiveness. She was also quick to grant forgiveness to us when we needed it. Involvement. Mom knew our friends well from spending time at our activities and from frequently having them over to our home. She fed and loved on all of them well! Relationships with Others. She and Dad fostered our relationships with older, godly role models, by inviting our youth leaders over for meals and/or game nights. They also modeled how to love people well by taking us along when they would deliver meals, visit people in the hospital, or attend funerals. My brother and I learned many lessons in compassion by watching our parents interact with others like this. Valuing God and His Word. Mom demonstrated the value of spending time in God's Word by doing it regularly herself. I have many memories of her at her desk reading and praying. We also regularly read from the Bible together as a family. As a young child, I didn't always understand what was read, but I always knew that it was important. Prayer . One of the most valuable ways Mom invested in our lives was to pray for us and with us. Even to this day, she lifts up our family's specific needs, faithfully praying through passages of Scripture, claiming God's promises and asking for His guidance and provision in our lives. Mom has done these and many other things exceptionally well in her parenting and now in her grandparenting (see picture above). Her love, prayers, and example led me through my childhood years and continue to guide me today by shaping my idea of the kind of mom I want to be to my own children. Happy Mother's Day to my mom, who... Entrusted Leadership Training http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=299202http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=299202 Mon, 07 May 2012 15:00:00 GMT <img alt="" width="600" height="400" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/2012%20leadership.jpeg" /> Entrusted Ministries hosted our annual Leadership Training this past Friday with ministry leaders from all around the Chicago area. We were honored to share the day with these committed women, talking through the specifics of how to offer the Entrusted with a Child’s Heart ministry. The day was filled with fellowship, training and great food! Thanks, ladies, for setting aside this day for the sake of raising families for the glory of God. Entrusted Ministries hosted our annual Leadership Training this past Friday with ministry leaders from all around the Chicago area. We were honored to share the day with these committed women, talking through the specifics of how to offer the Entrusted with a Child’s Heart ministry. The day was filled with fellowship, training and great food! Thanks, ladies, for setting aside this day for the sake of raising families for the glory of God. Fresh Veggie Sandwich http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=296168http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=296168 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:00:00 GMT <img alt="" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/Fresh%20Veggie%20Sandwich.jpg" />One of our favorite sandwiches was from a local store we frequented when we lived in Chicago. Several years ago I decided to try to duplicate it so we could enjoy them whenever we had a taste for something really healthy. This recipe makes about two good-sized sandwiches so if you're making more just adjust the amounts of everything. 4 slices whole grain wheat bread, or bread of your choice 2 cups Mesculin lettuce 1/2 English cucumber, sliced thin 1 large tomato, sliced 1-2 carrots, shredded 4 slices Muenster cheese Mayonnaise (In the summer I chop fresh basil, oregano or other herbs from my garden into the mayo to give another layer of flavor to the sandwich) Salt and pepper, optional Spread bread with mayonnaise. Begin building sandwiches with lettuce, cheese, cucumber, tomato (I salt and pepper the tomatoes a little) and carrots. Adjust amounts of ingredients depending on the number of sandwiches you are making and how big you want them. Note: Feel free to be creative with adding other ingredients, i.e., fresh spinach, pesto, sprouts, sliced avocado, different cheeses or raw veggies. One of our favorite sandwiches was from a local store we frequented when we lived in Chicago. Several years ago I decided to try to duplicate it so we could enjoy them whenever we had a taste for something really healthy. This recipe makes about two good-sized sandwiches so if you're making more just adjust the amounts of everything. 4 slices whole grain wheat bread, or bread of your choice 2 cups Mesculin lettuce 1/2 English cucumber, sliced thin 1 large tomato, sliced 1-2 carrots, shredded 4 slices Muenster cheese Mayonnaise (In the summer I chop fresh basil, oregano or other herbs from my garden into the mayo to give another layer of flavor to the sandwich) Salt and pepper, optional Spread bread with mayonnaise. Begin building sandwiches with lettuce, cheese, cucumber, tomato (I salt and pepper the tomatoes a little) and carrots. Adjust amounts of ingredients depending on the number of sandwiches you are making and how big you want them. Note: Feel free to be creative with adding other ingredients, i.e., fresh spinach, pesto, sprouts, sliced avocado, different cheeses or raw veggies. MissioDei -- Chicago, IL http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=296166http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=296166 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 14:00:00 GMT <img alt="" width="320" height="214" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/missiodeo.jpg" />This past Monday, Betsy was honored to spend the morning with the women's ministry of MissioDei— in Chicago's Wrigleyille neighborhood—answering their questions about parenting and family life. What a wonderful group of moms who long to follow the Lord and His ways wholeheartedly! We are so grateful to them for their hospitality and for the incredible blessing of being in their company. This past Monday, Betsy was honored to spend the morning with the women's ministry of MissioDei— in Chicago's Wrigleyille neighborhood—answering their questions about parenting and family life. What a wonderful group of moms who long to follow the Lord and His ways wholeheartedly! We are so grateful to them for their hospitality and for the incredible blessing of being in their company. It's a Toy's World http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=295131http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=295131 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 14:00:00 GMT <img alt="" width="257" height="350" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/toys%20world.jpg" />In 1950, a 5 year old owned, on average, five toys. In 2000, a 5 year old owned, on average, 250 toys.* It’s 2012, and I have no idea how many toys a 5 year old owns these days, but I have a feeling it’s more than 250. What the heck does a 5 year old do with 250 toys or more anyway? Star on Hoarders: Toddler Edition? I’ve been participating in an Entrusted with a Child's Heart study, and today’s lesson was “Guarding a Child’s Mind: A godly mother chooses her child’s environment wisely.” What does this mean? As Christian parents, it’s our responsibility to instil in our children God’s Word and its absolute truths. After all, we are in a spiritual battle for our children’s hearts and minds. God’s way and the world’s ways are two different ways, and we are to help our children “grow” their faith in Christ so that they will one day stand on their own convictions and choose right from wrong on their own. One of the aspects we touched on is materialism and how we view our belongings and, in turn, teach our children to view their belongings. Ecclesiastes 5:10 reads, “He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves abundance with its income. This too is vanity.” Hebrews 13:5 reads, “Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, ‘I will never desert you, nor will I forsake you.’” Living in Canada, my kiddo has been born into “wealth.” Anyone with some dollars in the bank and his wallet and spare change in a cup on the counter is in the top 8 per cent of wealthiest people in the world.* But what are we teaching our children about this wealth? Are we teaching them that ALL we have comes from God? Do our children have attitudes of gratitude and thankful hearts for His provision? We are called to be content and grateful. Are we as parents showing contentment and gratefulness for our belongings to our children? God provides for His children. He always has, and He always will. We need to teach our children to be thankful and grateful for all they have and to focus on what they can give and share with others. Most importantly, we need to teach them to “set their minds on the things above, not on the things that are on earth” (Colossians 3:2). No small task, but a rewarding one indeed. Who needs 250 toys anyway? * Taken from Entrusted with a Child’s Heart: A Biblical Study in Parenting by Betsy Corning <hr /> Today's post was written by Guest Blogger and Entrusted Mom, Jill A Duling (from <a href="http://allthoughtout.wordpress.com/">All Thought Out</a>). In 1950, a 5 year old owned, on average, five toys. In 2000, a 5 year old owned, on average, 250 toys.* It’s 2012, and I have no idea how many toys a 5 year old owns these days, but I have a feeling it’s more than 250. What the heck does a 5 year old do with 250 toys or more anyway? Star on Hoarders: Toddler Edition? I’ve been participating in an Entrusted with a Child's Heart study, and today’s lesson was “Guarding a Child’s Mind: A godly mother chooses her child’s environment wisely.” What does this mean? As Christian parents, it’s our responsibility to instil in our children God’s Word and its absolute truths. After all, we are in a spiritual battle for our children’s hearts and minds. God’s way and the world’s ways are two different ways, and we are to help our children “grow” their faith in Christ so that they will one day stand on their own convictions and choose right from wrong on their own. One of the aspects we touched on is materialism and how we view our belongings and, in turn, teach our children to view their belongings. Ecclesiastes 5:10 reads, “He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves abundance with its income. This too is vanity.” Hebrews 13:5 reads, “Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, ‘I will never desert you, nor will I forsake you.’” Living in Canada, my kiddo has been born into “wealth.” Anyone with some dollars in the bank and his wallet and spare change in a cup on the counter is in the top 8 per cent of wealthiest people in the world.* But what are we teaching our children about this wealth? Are we teaching them that ALL we have comes from God? Do our children have attitudes of gratitude and thankful hearts for His provision? We are called to be content and grateful. Are we as parents showing contentment and gratefulness for our belongings to our children? God provides for His children. He always has, and He always will. We need to teach our children to be thankful and grateful for all they have and to focus on what they can give and share with others. Most importantly, we need to teach them to “set their minds on the things above, not on the things that are on earth” (Colossians 3:2). No small task, but a rewarding one indeed. Who needs 250 toys anyway? * Taken from Entrusted with a Child’s Heart: A Biblical Study in Parenting by Betsy Corning Today's post was written by Guest Blogger and Entrusted Mom, Jill A Duling (from All Thought Out ). Clashing with the Relatives at Easter Dinner http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=205890http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=205890 Fri, 06 Apr 2012 14:00:00 GMT Having the relatives for Easter Dinner? It is one of the greatest joys in life to celebrate the resurrection of our Lord Jesus with family and friends. Whether you go all-out fancy or prefer simplicity, the details of your hospitality create a welcoming atmosphere that says, “It is great to be together.” These are the times that generate family traditions and memories. Some of the favored symbols of Easter among many families are colored Easter eggs. They represent the new life we receive in Christ as we celebrate His resurrection and the power He has over sin and death.  This simple object with profound significance is the center of a fun family game we play at the end of Easter dinner. Did you know that if you crack two hard-boiled eggs together, only one will break? This simple fact makes this the perfect game for the entire extended family because Grampa can be pitted against his three-year old granddaughter who can be pitted against her college-aged uncle! To play, two people sitting next to each other pair up and strategically tap, smash or crack their eggs together. The one that escapes unscathed competes with another fellow survivor until there is but one remaining! It is hilarious to watch the approach, the grasp and the follow-through of various players. Plus because there does not seem to be any foolproof technique, the three-year old granddaughter might just be the winner! Having the relatives for Easter Dinner? It is one of the greatest joys in life to celebrate the resurrection of our Lord Jesus with family and friends. Whether you go all-out fancy or prefer simplicity, the details of your hospitality create a welcoming atmosphere that says, “It is great to be together.” These are the times that generate family traditions and memories. Some of the favored symbols of Easter among many families are colored Easter eggs. They represent the new life we receive in Christ as we celebrate His resurrection and the power He has over sin and death. This simple object with profound significance is the center of a fun family game we play at the end of Easter dinner. Did you know that if you crack two hard-boiled eggs together, only one will break? This simple fact makes this the perfect game for the entire extended family because Grampa can be pitted against his three-year old granddaughter who can be pitted against her college-aged uncle! To play, two people sitting next to each other pair up and strategically tap, smash or crack their eggs together. The one that escapes unscathed competes with another fellow survivor until there is but one remaining! It is hilarious to watch the approach, the grasp and the follow-through of various players. Plus because there does not seem to be any foolproof technique, the three-year old granddaughter might just be the winner! Amos & Andy Cookies http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=293241http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=293241 Thu, 29 Mar 2012 15:00:00 GMT <img alt="" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/amos_andycookies.jpg" />This recipe takes chocolate chip cookies to a whole new level. They are crunchy on the outside and chewy on the inside (if you don't over bake them). The coconut adds a great consistency without giving a strong coconut flavor. And, I just break the pecans with my hands so the pieces are larger and not uniform. Whenever I bring these anywhere people ask for the recipe. 3 sticks butter, at room temperature 3/4 cup Crisco shortening 1 1/2 cups packed brown sugar 2 cups granulated sugar 2 eggs 1 1/2 tsp. vanilla 4 cups flour 1 1/2 tsp. baking soda 3/4 tsp. baking powder 1/4 tsp. salt 7 ounces flaked, sweetened coconut 12 ounces semi-sweet chocolate chips 6 ounces pecans, coarsely chopped or broken Cream the butter and shortening until light and fluffy. Add brown and granulated sugar and combine well. Add eggs and vanilla and mix well. In separate bowl combine flour, baking soda, baking powder and salt. Add to creamed mixture and mix well. Add coconut, chocolate chips and pecans and stir until well combined. Refrigerate until cold. Shape into 2” balls (or use a cookie scoop) and place 2 inches apart on un-greased cookie sheet. Bake at 375 degrees for 15 minutes, or until lightly browned. Remove from oven and let sit for a few minutes before removing from cookie sheets. Note: This recipe makes a large number of cookies, about six dozen. I usually mix up the cookie batter and spoon the dough onto the baking sheets and freeze. When frozen I put all the unbaked cookies in a plastic container or zip-lock bag and freeze. When I want some fresh-baked cookies, I just take the amount I need and bake them. **When baking from frozen, add about five minutes to the baking time and lower the oven temperature to 350 degrees. The baked cookies also freeze well. To make a special treat put a scoop of ice cream between two cookies and press gently to form an ice cream sandwich. Roll edges in mini chocolate chips or chopped nuts. This recipe takes chocolate chip cookies to a whole new level. They are crunchy on the outside and chewy on the inside (if you don't over bake them). The coconut adds a great consistency without giving a strong coconut flavor. And, I just break the pecans with my hands so the pieces are larger and not uniform. Whenever I bring these anywhere people ask for the recipe. 3 sticks butter, at room temperature 3/4 cup Crisco shortening 1 1/2 cups packed brown sugar 2 cups granulated sugar 2 eggs 1 1/2 tsp. vanilla 4 cups flour 1 1/2 tsp. baking soda 3/4 tsp. baking powder 1/4 tsp. salt 7 ounces flaked, sweetened coconut 12 ounces semi-sweet chocolate chips 6 ounces pecans, coarsely chopped or broken Cream the butter and shortening until light and fluffy. Add brown and granulated sugar and combine well. Add eggs and vanilla and mix well. In separate bowl combine flour, baking soda, baking powder and salt. Add to creamed mixture and mix well. Add coconut, chocolate chips and pecans and stir until well combined. Refrigerate until cold. Shape into 2” balls (or use a cookie scoop) and place 2 inches apart on un-greased cookie sheet. Bake at 375 degrees for 15 minutes, or until lightly browned. Remove from oven and let sit for a few minutes before removing from cookie sheets. Note: This recipe makes a large number of cookies, about six dozen. I usually mix up the cookie batter and spoon the dough onto the baking sheets and freeze. When frozen I put all the unbaked cookies in a plastic container or zip-lock bag and freeze. When I want some fresh-baked cookies, I just take the amount I need and bake them. **When baking from frozen, add about five minutes to the baking time and lower the oven temperature to 350 degrees. The baked cookies also freeze well. To make a special treat put a scoop of ice cream between two cookies and press gently to form an ice cream sandwich. Roll edges in mini chocolate chips or chopped nuts. MOPS Moms at Oak Park, IL http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=291961http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=291961 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 17:00:00 GMT This past week, Betsy spoke to the MOPS group that meets in Oak Park, IL. She shared with the women on the topic of "Setting your Family GPS" and the need for all of us to have a clear direction from God's Word for our family’s life. Psalm 127 tells us that, “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it." Betsy challenged the moms to live in Understanding and Agreement * with their husbands, and to identify one or two values they would include in a Family Plan* for their household. Betsy shared her own family plan: <ol> <li>Love and obey Jesus (Matthew 22:37)</li> <li>Be loyal to family (Ephesians 6:1-4)</li> <li>Be honest (Lev. 19:11; Proverbs 12:22)</li> <li>Work hard and finish strong (Colossians 3:23; 2 Thes. 3:10)</li> <li>Be kind and respectful (Ephesians 4:32)</li> </ol> Thank you to MOPS Oak Park for their invitation and the pleasure of spending the morning with these wonderful women. *The concepts of Understanding and Agreement and the Family Plan are further explored in the Entrusted with a Child’s Heart book, which can be purchased <a href="http://www.entrustedministries.com/10186/product/product_id/194950/BOOK-FORMAT">here</a>. <img alt="" width="482" height="326" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/mops_oakpark.jpg" /> <img alt="" width="481" height="319" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/mops_oakpark2.jpg" /> This past week, Betsy spoke to the MOPS group that meets in Oak Park, IL. She shared with the women on the topic of "Setting your Family GPS" and the need for all of us to have a clear direction from God's Word for our family’s life. Psalm 127 tells us that, “Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it." Betsy challenged the moms to live in Understanding and Agreement * with their husbands, and to identify one or two values they would include in a Family Plan * for their household. Betsy shared her own family plan: Love and obey Jesus (Matthew 22:37) Be loyal to family (Ephesians 6:1-4) Be honest (Lev. 19:11; Proverbs 12:22) Work hard and finish strong (Colossians 3:23; 2 Thes. 3:10) Be kind and respectful (Ephesians 4:32) Thank you to MOPS Oak Park for their invitation and the pleasure of spending the morning with these wonderful women. *The concepts of Understanding and Agreement and the Family Plan are further explored in the Entrusted with a Child’s Heart book, which can be purchased here . Peace for Your Soul http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=291484http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=291484 Fri, 16 Mar 2012 14:00:00 GMT <h2><img alt="" style="width: 272px; height: 181px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/peace.jpg" />Peace -- noun (/pēs/)</h2> <h3>a state of quiet or tranquility; absence of disturbance, security and restfulness of soul; confident assurance</h3> Verses for Meditation: Numbers 6: 24-26 The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace. Psalm 4:8 In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety. Psalm 37:7-11 Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him;      fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way,     over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath!      Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For the evildoers shall be cut off,     but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land. In just a little while, the wicked will be no more;     though you look carefully at his place, he will not be there. But the meek shall inherit the land     and delight themselves in abundant peace. Psalm 85: 8-13 Let me hear what God the Lord will speak,     for he will speak peace to his people, to his saints;     but let them not turn back to folly. Surely his salvation is near to those who fear him,     that glory may dwell in our land. Steadfast love and faithfulness meet;      righteousness and peace kiss each other. Faithfulness springs up from the ground,     and righteousness looks down from the sky. Yes, the Lord will give what is good,     and our land will yield its increase. Righteousness will go before him     and make his footsteps a way. Isaiah 9:6 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 12:2 “Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and will not be afraid; for the LORD GOD is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation.” Matthew 11:28-30  Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” John 14:26-27 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful. John 16:33 These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.” Romans 5:1-5 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. Phil 4:6-8 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 2 Thess 3: 16 Now may the Lord of peace Himself continually grant you peace in every circumstance. The Lord be with you all! Peace -- noun (/pēs/) a state of quiet or tranquility; absence of disturbance, security and restfulness of soul; confident assurance Verses for Meditation: Numbers 6: 24-26 The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace. Psalm 4:8 In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety. Psalm 37:7-11 Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For the evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land. In just a little while, the wicked will be no more; though you look carefully at his place, he will not be there. But the meek shall inherit the land and delight themselves in abundant peace. Psalm 85: 8-13 Let me hear what God the Lord will speak, for he will speak peace to his people, to his saints; but let them not turn back to folly. Surely his salvation is near to those who fear him, that glory may dwell in our land. Steadfast love and faithfulness meet; righteousness and peace kiss each other. Faithfulness springs up from the ground, and righteousness looks down from the sky. Yes, the Lord will give what is good, and our land will yield its increase. Righteousness will go before him and make his footsteps a way. Isaiah 9:6 For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 12:2 “Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and will not be afraid; for the LORD GOD is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation.” Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” John 14:26-27 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful. John 16:33 These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.” Romans 5:1-5 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. Phil 4:6-8 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which... Help for a Child Acting Aggressively? http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=289800http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=289800 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 15:00:00 GMT <h3><img alt="" style="width: 275px; height: 182px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/aggressive%20kids.jpg" />Dear Betsy,</h3> I took Entrusted last year and was so blessed by it! I have a three-year old son, who is very strong-willed, and also the most fun-loving, creative child. We are dealing lately with him being aggressive towards other children…hitting, shoving, etc…  He has a lot of trouble with self-control and when he is in a situation where things are not going his way, he will shove or hit. My husband and I are spanking for this when we see it, as well as if we hear a report after children’s church or Bible study that he has done this in a classroom. It seems like we have not seen much progress in this over the past few months. Sometimes I feel so discouraged and don’t want to take my son out for play dates, because I don’t want him to bully other kids, and frankly sometimes I feel like a bad parent, when other parents see his aggressive behavior and don’t understand, because their child’s an “angel." :) Do you have any suggestions for us? Seeking wisdom… <h3>Dear Seeking,</h3> Some children are more strong-willed while others have a more compliant temperament. If your child has an especially strong will, he will need consistent training (in obedience) and discipline (correction for disobedience). As parents of a child with this type of temperament, you will also need an extra measure of perseverance so that he learns to submit his will to yours (and ultimately to the Lord). It sounds as if you are doing many of the appropriate things so the answer may be perseverance. I often tell young mothers that there is a mathematical formula for just how often you must repeat the same response to disobedience. In this formula, “X” will represent the number of times that your child exerts their will over yours (in cases of Defiance/Disobedience/Danger). “Y” will represent the number of times you need to be willing to respond with discipline and the Full Circle (Entrusted with a Child’s Heart pp. 210-212, 249.) You must be willing to respond with Y one more time than he is willing to do X.  That means he has submitted his will to yours and no longer attempts to defy you in this particular behavior. So the formula could look like this: Y >  X (This concept is explained further in Entrusted with a Child’s Heart on pp. 284-285.) When a child learns that you will consistently respond to his disobedience in a specific way, he will eventually learn that this behavior is no longer “working.” He will learn that if he engages in this behavior 5 times, Mom and Dad will respond with discipline and the full circle 5 times (or more if necessary). If you are persistent, the child will eventually get the picture and submit his will. Obviously, this takes a great deal of intentional parenting. And yes, it is easy to become discouraged when you don’t see progress over time. But take heart according to Galatians 6:9! You might want to address this at other times, when you are not in the “heat of the moment” and role-play a bit with them. This can be very helpful if you (and your child) are beginning to feel like you are often in a disciplinary mode. Be willing to take all the time it takes to truly teach and instruct him about the idea of the choices he is making (shoving, for instance), as opposed to the “right choice” (wait his turn, or share, for instance). Teach him how to respond appropriately — with good manners and kindness — be sure to praise his efforts, and rewind the day at bedtime with “The Story of Today” (see Entrusted with a Child’s Heart p. 272). Also talk with your child and ask him why he is doing these things. One little child I know got in trouble at a play date for hitting another child. When his mother was helping him get into his pajamas that evening she noticed a full set of teeth marks in his shoulder. This was hours later! But no one had asked him why he hit the other child and he never mentioned it. Aggressive behavior must always be addressed but sometimes we fail to get the full story. If you observe that your child is acting aggressively, do your part to give him the best possible scenario for success. In other words, is he rested, fed, and feeling secure in the situation? For how long and how often is he in this environment? What conditions overwhelm or exasperate him and how can you minimize them? Is he observing/learning aggressive behavior in any other context? While we don’t want to “excuse” aggressive behavior, we do need to be considerate of what our children can handle according to their level of maturity. You must work diligently with your son so that these behaviors are managed. But let me encourage you that your hard work will surely be rewarded not only now but also in the future. A child with a strong will can go completely haywire as an adult if his will is left unchecked. But by the same token, if through diligent parenting they have learned the discipline of self-control, they can become exceptional adults who can accomplish much for the Lord. “These words which I am commanding you today shall be on your hearts. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.”  Deuteronomy 6:7 “In all labor there is profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” Proverbs 14:23 For further discussion on this, you might also refer to the recent post by a mother whose <a href="http://www.entrustedministries.com/10186/blogentry/entry_id/287800/How-to-Discipline-a-Toddler-Who-Is-Swatting-at-Others">child started ”swatting.”  </a>It takes more than words to train our children; it takes time, energy, work, and sacrifice…  but it is all worth it! Press on, dear one. <img alt="" width="238" height="119" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Betsy%20Signature.png" /> Dear Betsy, I took Entrusted last year and was so blessed by it! I have a three-year old son, who is very strong-willed, and also the most fun-loving, creative child. We are dealing lately with him being aggressive towards other children…hitting, shoving, etc… He has a lot of trouble with self-control and when he is in a situation where things are not going his way, he will shove or hit. My husband and I are spanking for this when we see it, as well as if we hear a report after children’s church or Bible study that he has done this in a classroom. It seems like we have not seen much progress in this over the past few months. Sometimes I feel so discouraged and don’t want to take my son out for play dates, because I don’t want him to bully other kids, and frankly sometimes I feel like a bad parent, when other parents see his aggressive behavior and don’t understand, because their child’s an “angel." :) Do you have any suggestions for us? Seeking wisdom… Dear Seeking, Some children are more strong-willed while others have a more compliant temperament. If your child has an especially strong will, he will need consistent training (in obedience) and discipline (correction for disobedience). As parents of a child with this type of temperament, you will also need an extra measure of perseverance so that he learns to submit his will to yours (and ultimately to the Lord). It sounds as if you are doing many of the appropriate things so the answer may be perseverance. I often tell young mothers that there is a mathematical formula for just how often you must repeat the same response to disobedience. In this formula, “X” will represent the number of times that your child exerts their will over yours (in cases of Defiance/Disobedience/Danger). “Y” will represent the number of times you need to be willing to respond with discipline and the Full Circle ( Entrusted with a Child’s Heart pp. 210-212, 249.) You must be willing to respond with Y one more time than he is willing to do X. That means he has submitted his will to yours and no longer attempts to defy you in this particular behavior. So the formula could look like this: Y > X (This concept is explained further in Entrusted with a Child’s Heart on pp. 284-285.) When a child learns that you will consistently respond to his disobedience in a specific way, he will eventually learn that this behavior is no longer “working.” He will learn that if he engages in this behavior 5 times, Mom and Dad will respond with discipline and the full circle 5 times (or more if necessary). If you are persistent, the child will eventually get the picture and submit his will. Obviously, this takes a great deal of intentional parenting. And yes, it is easy to become discouraged when you don’t see progress over time. But take heart according to Galatians 6:9! You might want to address this at other times, when you are not in the “heat of the moment” and role-play a bit with them. This can be very helpful if you (and your child) are beginning to feel like you are often in a disciplinary mode. Be willing to take all the time it takes to truly teach and instruct him about the idea of the choices he is making (shoving, for instance), as opposed to the “right choice” (wait his turn, or share, for instance). Teach him how to respond appropriately — with good manners and kindness... Cornings Return From Thailand Trip http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=288488http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=288488 Wed, 07 Mar 2012 14:00:00 GMT David and Betsy Corning just spent two weeks in Thailand sharing Entrusted with key leaders of several Asian countries. It was an amazing time of fellowship and ministry. They were able to counsel with many couples in between their speaking sessions and were also happy to get to know the families there and to understand more about the many ways they are serving abroad. David and Betsy left feeling excited about further opportunities to serve these families and encouraged by the great time of ministry! <img alt="" width="349" height="239" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/thailand6.jpg" /> Betsy, while teaching principles of family life and parenting. <img alt="" width="348" height="231" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/thailand3.jpg" /> Tuk tuks are one of the primary forms of transportation. <img alt="" width="349" height="232" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/thailand5.jpg" /> Love those little babies! <img alt="" width="349" height="232" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/thailand2.jpg" /> Elephants are one of the most amazing creatures. Betsy is riding here with friends, Sophie and Maggie Stowell through the jungle. <img alt="" width="349" height="232" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/thailand4.jpg" /> Buddhist Monks at a 16th Century Temple. <img alt="" width="349" height="232" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/thailand7.jpg" /> Enjoyed meeting some local women at the marketplace. <img alt="" width="349" height="232" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/thailand.jpg" /> An example of the beautiful lanterns in the streets of Chiang Mai. David and Betsy Corning just spent two weeks in Thailand sharing Entrusted with key leaders of several Asian countries. It was an amazing time of fellowship and ministry. They were able to counsel with many couples in between their speaking sessions and were also happy to get to know the families there and to understand more about the many ways they are serving abroad. David and Betsy left feeling excited about further opportunities to serve these families and encouraged by the great time of ministry! Betsy, while teaching principles of family life and parenting. Tuk tuks are one of the primary forms of transportation. Love those little babies! Elephants are one of the most amazing creatures. Betsy is riding here with friends, Sophie and Maggie Stowell through the jungle. Buddhist Monks at a 16th Century Temple. Enjoyed meeting some local women at the marketplace. An example of the beautiful lanterns in the streets of Chiang Mai. Working Full-Time = Better Mom? http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=288746http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=288746 Fri, 02 Mar 2012 15:00:00 GMT <h3><img alt="" width="280" height="224" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/stayhomemom.jpg" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" />Hey Everyone!</h3> I have a question that keeps coming up between my friends and small groups at Entrusted…So often you hear women say “I’m a better mom because I work outside the home.” This has always confused me and lately I have begun to hear many Christian women also saying this. I have my own verses and thoughts that I share but I wondered what Betsy has to say about this. So many women say this and truly believe that God wants them working full-time and being away from home in order to be BETTER. I see that as a counterfeit. Can you encourage and teach us on what God’s Word says specifically about this and how to help other women who are believing this? -Confused <h3>Dear Confused,</h3> It is natural for a mother to feel overwhelmed or unappreciated when she is home all day, every day, especially with babies or toddlers. This is part of being a mother. The Lord teaches us selflessness through having and raising children. A full-time job is not likely the best remedy for respite or relief. It may seem that these are the ages when your children can be left in the care of another, but do not be deceived; these are critical years of training and bonding between mother and child. These years are difficult — if not impossible — to reclaim. And though nothing is impossible with God, He clearly warns us to live circumspectly since we will surely “reap what we sow.” Our life purpose as believers must be to glorify God as much as humanly possible in all we say and do, and though we will often fail, the Lord is at work in us both to will and to work (Philippians 2:13) for His good pleasure and for our sanctification.  We recognize that life is about Him and for Him and that apart from Him we are nothing. We place ourselves under the authority of His Word knowing that He knows best for us. Often though, we can veer from God’s instruction as we attempt to keep pace with cultural and worldly trends. When that happens we begin to live according to “what is right in our own eyes” (Judges 17:6.) God created families as the perfect training ground to raise godly children, to model the holy institution of marriage and fidelity, and to perpetuate generations that would worship and glorify the one true God. We can do things outside our homes but the question is how much time can we spend away from home before we compromise our God-given priorities? Outside pursuits, goals, ministries and so forth are fine when they do not conflict with our duties/responsibilities within the home. But once a child is born into the family, these outside pursuits necessarily change because they have been displaced by a higher priority. (In saying this, I am not advocating the practice of developing “child-centered” homes but rather fulfilling our God-given role as the primary nurturer and trainer of our children.) Secondly, we must carefully and honestly examine our motives for being outside of the home, (whether to “better” oneself or one’s income) and determine if we are in fact, jeopardizing the priority of home and family. This varies from one family to the next, but we must be careful not to fool ourselves. Learning to trust the Lord to meet all our needs, learning to be resourceful, being content (even satisfied and fulfilled) in our roles is part of maturing in Christ and will benefit us in the long run. Many women can rationalize the amount of time they spend away from their families but much of the arguments are just that - rationalizations. King Solomon stated in Psalm 127 that it is vain to build our "houses" (households/families) apart from God. He goes on to say that it is vain to “burn the candle at both ends” (my paraphrase). We often do both when we overwhelm our lives with extra pursuits. These are questions each married couple needs to wrestle with before the Lord. Of course, there can be extenuating circumstances that pull a mother from the home but they should be both part-time and short-term — at least for the season of life that her children are at home. And that is about twenty years (!) — but it is not your whole life. Over time, many working mothers actually feel as if they are the ones “missing out” when a lack of training, bonding, and relationship has had a detrimental effect on the family. At the very least children are sent the message that Mom doesn’t need to be home, which has multi-generational implications. Home is where the heart is, Betsy (For further reading, Entrusted with a Child’s Heart, Chapter 6, “A Mother’s Touch and the Nature of a Child,” addresses this topic extensively.) Hey Everyone! I have a question that keeps coming up between my friends and small groups at Entrusted…So often you hear women say “I’m a better mom because I work outside the home.” This has always confused me and lately I have begun to hear many Christian women also saying this. I have my own verses and thoughts that I share but I wondered what Betsy has to say about this. So many women say this and truly believe that God wants them working full-time and being away from home in order to be BETTER. I see that as a counterfeit. Can you encourage and teach us on what God’s Word says specifically about this and how to help other women who are believing this? -Confused Dear Confused, It is natural for a mother to feel overwhelmed or unappreciated when she is home all day, every day, especially with babies or toddlers. This is part of being a mother. The Lord teaches us selflessness through having and raising children. A full-time job is not likely the best remedy for respite or relief. It may seem that these are the ages when your children can be left in the care of another, but do not be deceived; these are critical years of training and bonding between mother and child. These years are difficult — if not impossible — to reclaim. And though nothing is impossible with God, He clearly warns us to live circumspectly since we will surely “reap what we sow.” Our life purpose as believers must be to glorify God as much as humanly possible in all we say and do, and though we will often fail, the Lord is at work in us both to will and to work (Philippians 2:13) for His good pleasure and for our sanctification. We recognize that life is about Him and for Him and that apart from Him we are nothing. We place ourselves under the authority of His Word knowing that He knows best for us. Often though, we can veer from God’s instruction as we attempt to keep pace with cultural and worldly trends. When that happens we begin to live according to “what is right in our own eyes” (Judges 17:6.) God created families as the perfect training ground to raise godly children, to model the holy institution of marriage and fidelity, and to perpetuate generations that would worship and glorify the one true God. We can do things outside our homes but the question is how much time can we spend away from home before we compromise our God-given priorities? Outside pursuits, goals, ministries and so forth are fine when they do not conflict with our duties/responsibilities within the home. But once a child is born into the family, these outside pursuits necessarily change because they have been displaced by a higher priority. (In saying this, I am not advocating the practice of developing “child-centered” homes but rather fulfilling our God-given role as the primary nurturer and trainer of our children.) Secondly, we must carefully and honestly examine our motives for being outside of the home, (whether to “better” oneself or one’s income) and determine if we are in fact, jeopardizing the priority of home and family. This varies from one family to the next, but we must be careful not to fool ourselves. Learning to trust the Lord to meet all our needs, learning to be resourceful, being content (even satisfied and fulfilled) in our roles is part of maturing in Christ and will benefit us in the long run. Many women can rationalize the amount of time they spend away from their... How to Discipline a Toddler Who Is Swatting at Others? http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=287800http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=287800 Fri, 24 Feb 2012 14:00:00 GMT <h3><img alt="" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/toddler.jpg" style="width: 187px; height: 280px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" />Dear Betsy,</h3> My daughter who turned two this week has recently started occasionally taking her hand and swatting me, or her older brothers in the face when she doesn’t get her way. This is out of character for her because she has a kind, loving, easy-going demeanor. I am in the Entrusted study currently and I felt that in our home I should spank her for this. Is spanking a good discipline choice for this face swatting issue for when we are in private? Also, she swatted me once in the grocery store this week and by the time we were in the car, it was already 15 minutes after the incident so I didn’t know the best way to discipline at that point since it was long after her behavior problem. What do you suggest if she does it again in public? All for Him! <h3>Dear All for Him:</h3> Young children will try some outlandish, willful behaviors as they are growing up — especially if they can get away with them. Our job as parents who are entrusted with the care and training of these little ones is to identify the source of these behaviors: <ul> <li>Immaturity or ignorance in need of instruction</li> <li>Defiance or willful behavior in need of discipline and correction, or</li> <li>Emotions in need of proper perspective, admonition, exhortation, or encouragement. </li> </ul> Thankfully, you recognize the behavior for what it is: wanting to have her own way, rather than submitting her will. Therefore, it is her will that needs to be addressed (corrected/disciplined) but since she is so young she is also demonstrating her immaturity in not fully understanding that swatting someone in the face is not acceptable behavior. (Though the responses/reactions she receives from those she swats no likely delivers that message!) So let’s first address training her mind so that she “knows better” and then secondly, address her willful behavior so that she learns to humbly submit her will to choosing the appropriate behavior. Here’s a possible way to train her in these areas: (Keep in mind that this recommendation is for a two year-old. An older child who already “knows better” should be dealt with according to their willfulness/defiance with discipline. And even as soon as she has this understanding, discipline is the appropriate response). When she attempts to swat, calmly but firmly take hold of her hands placing them down to her sides or in her lap as you continue to hold them and say, “No swatting/slapping.” Continue to hold her hands until she relaxes even if she begins to get defiant. Wait her out until she submits then release her hands and repeat, “Momma said, no swatting.” Have her respond, “Ok, momma.” If she refuses, wait her out calmly until she gives you the proper response. When she says, “Ok, Momma” then give her a hug and say, “all done.” This correction also works well in public situations. Keep your directions simple, concise and repetitive so that she learns how you will respond to this behavior and what you expect from her. And so importantly, be consistent should the swatting behavior recur. Also, when she is in a carefree, easy-going mode as you describe her, reinforce this training by teaching her to sit properly or to make requests appropriately. Praise her when she makes “right choices” by saying something like, “You are sitting nicely, thank you. You are making a right choice.” If she falls back to her old pattern of swatting (after all, training is a process), inform her that she can make the right choice giving her the opportunity to obey before you have to respond in discipline. You might tell her that if she makes the wrong choice, she will get a spank. Be sure to follow through with the “full-circle” as instructed in Entrusted with a Child's Heart (pp. 210-212, 249), so that she will understand that there are consequences to disobedient or defiant behavior and so that your training will be effective. Also, talk to her about being “soft/gentle” with people, pets, special things and how we are careful, loving and respectful to people; that swatting is not loving or gentle. It is wise to help your child generalize this training to other areas of behavior. For example, it is good training to teach our children to sit without grabbing, poking, and other unacceptable behaviors, not just swatting. To train them to sit with their hands in their laps or folded will eliminate potential problems. My daughter, who has four children, all close in age, not to mention proximity, were tempted to “pick or poke” as siblings are prone to do. She would often say, while walking for instance, “hands in pockets,” and they would walk nicely in a line. Or while riding in the car, she would instruct “hands in laps” when they got antsy. Blessings to you as you teach your daughter to humble herself to your training and to treat people with gentle kindness. <img alt="" width="218" height="109" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Betsy%20Signature.png" /> Dear Betsy, My daughter who turned two this week has recently started occasionally taking her hand and swatting me, or her older brothers in the face when she doesn’t get her way. This is out of character for her because she has a kind, loving, easy-going demeanor. I am in the Entrusted study currently and I felt that in our home I should spank her for this. Is spanking a good discipline choice for this face swatting issue for when we are in private? Also, she swatted me once in the grocery store this week and by the time we were in the car, it was already 15 minutes after the incident so I didn’t know the best way to discipline at that point since it was long after her behavior problem. What do you suggest if she does it again in public? All for Him! Dear All for Him: Young children will try some outlandish, willful behaviors as they are growing up — especially if they can get away with them. Our job as parents who are entrusted with the care and training of these little ones is to identify the source of these behaviors: Immaturity or ignorance in need of instruction Defiance or willful behavior in need of discipline and correction, or Emotions in need of proper perspective, admonition, exhortation, or encouragement. Thankfully, you recognize the behavior for what it is: wanting to have her own way, rather than submitting her will. Therefore, it is her will that needs to be addressed (corrected/disciplined) but since she is so young she is also demonstrating her immaturity in not fully understanding that swatting someone in the face is not acceptable behavior. (Though the responses/reactions she receives from those she swats no likely delivers that message!) So let’s first address training her mind so that she “knows better” and then secondly, address her willful behavior so that she learns to humbly submit her will to choosing the appropriate behavior. Here’s a possible way to train her in these areas: (Keep in mind that this recommendation is for a two year-old. An older child who already “knows better” should be dealt with according to their willfulness/defiance with discipline. And even as soon as she has this understanding, discipline is the appropriate response). When she attempts to swat, calmly but firmly take hold of her hands placing them down to her sides or in her lap as you continue to hold them and say, “No swatting/slapping.” Continue to hold her hands until she relaxes even if she begins to get defiant. Wait her out until she submits then release her hands and repeat, “Momma said, no swatting.” Have her respond, “Ok, momma.” If she refuses, wait her out calmly until she gives you the proper response. When she says, “Ok, Momma” then give her a hug and say, “all done.” This correction also works well in public situations. Keep your directions simple, concise and repetitive so that she learns how you will respond to this behavior and what you expect from her. And so importantly, be consistent should the swatting behavior recur. Also, when she is in a carefree, easy-going mode as you describe her, reinforce this training by teaching her to sit properly or to make requests appropriately. Praise her when she makes “right choices” by saying something like, “You are sitting nicely, thank you. You are making a right choice.” If she falls back to her old pattern of swatting (after all,... Dating Relationships http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=286790http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=286790 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 15:00:00 GMT <h3><img alt="" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/asian%20teen%20girl.jpg" style="width: 294px; height: 235px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" />Dear Betsy,</h3> We have a 17 year old teen who has asked to start dating. The boy she likes is very nice, but she is unsure if he is a Christian. She argues that it is hard to have in-depth conversations if she’s never alone with him, but we are reluctant to give her the OK to go out with him if we don’t know if he’s a believer or not. What do you suggest? - Concerned Mother <h3>Dear Concerned,</h3> When your daughter reaches the age that you determine as fitting for her to date; be sure that you have also established clear delineations for dating, such as “how often," “how late,” “with whom” and so forth. The “with whom” part is extremely important not only for the obvious immediate impact and implications on your daughter’s life but also for her future. Therefore, whether you hold the conviction that “dating is for the purpose of choosing a mate” (meaning that every suitor is evaluated as a potential spouse) or you hold the conviction that “dating is a testing ground for various relationships that eventually lead to choosing a spouse,” you want to have clear guidelines to keep your teen’s relational ship from succumbing to the heavy emotional waves that are sure to come during these dating years. Certainly we want the best for our children, and as parents we are often the best objective voice of reason to them. We cannot place particular boundaries around their emotions but we can and must place guidelines and boundaries around their choices. They need to know that we have their optimal benefit in mind and to seek your approval before their heart engages in a relationship that you do not approve. The Scriptures tell us (2 Corinthians 6:14) not to become unequally yoked with unbelievers, referring primarily to the marriage relationship, but we would not want to set up our teen to have a relationship that could eventually result in marriage to an unbeliever. Allowing a teen to dabble in relationships with unbelievers is playing with fire — no matter how “nice” he seems. A young man may seem nice, polite and all that, but does he hold the same standards as you do for your daughter in the areas of morality, purity, media choices, speech and so forth? An unbeliever simply will not. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns us very directly, “Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals.” Being “nice” or “a great guy” falls desperately short of the godly young man who (while also young and susceptible to emotions/hormones) hopefully has your daughter’s best interest at heart and respects you as her parents. In other words, Christian kids need accountability, too! Many young men interested in lovely young ladies will declare their belief in God thinking if they say the right words they will “win the prize.” This happens all too often, I am sad to say. Often young couples marry only to discover in time that they are unequally yoked. Any worthy young suitor should be happy and willing to speak to a young lady’s father/parents for permission to date. It is not a private matter between the young man and your daughter. That argument should raise a red flag for you. His willingness to speak to you as the parents demonstrates his respect — or lack thereof — for you and your husband. A person may refer to himself as a believer, but this falls short of a profession of faith in Christ. Any true believer has no qualms about sharing their faith or their testimony. In fact, it is the natural declaration of a person who has the Holy Spirit residing in them. I once had a conversation with a close friend who was considering a relationship with a man. I asked her if he was a believer and she emphatically stated, “Yes!” Then I asked her to confirm that he was a born-again believer to which she replied, “Well, I don’t know about THAT!” “THAT” says it all. It cannot be both ways and you will be able to tell. I would encourage you not to allow your daughter to date anyone who does not have a clear profession of faith in Christ as their Savior and Lord and a testimony of how they came to this faith. Even though he is young, you will want to know that he has developed convictions for his life and that he lives under the authority of God’s Word. In the Entrusted with a Child’s Heart book, we refer to these indicators of faith as “vital signs of a true believer” (see pages 448-450 and 495-499). The Bible instructs us that we can evaluate a person’s spiritual life by their spiritual fruit. Here are a several examples of how this works: <ul> <li>Does the young person profess Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord? True believers cannot help but speak of what the Lord means to them and what He is doing in their lives. Believers do not treat such matters as “private” or as “none of your business.”</li> <li>Does he seek out and enjoy the fellowship of other believers by attending church, youth group or other Christian fellowship? Or does he attempt to isolate your daughter and keep her from you, from her Christian friends, commitments, or devotional time?</li> <li>Does he exemplify godly character in his attitude and behavior? Does he demonstrate respect for you and your daughter by following your instructions or boundaries? Or is he dismissive of you and the standards you have instilled in your daughter?</li> <li>Does he have a track record and convictions for moral purity? Does he separate himself from the world’s value system and activities? Can he state his convictions to you? Or does he think that you are unrealistic, too rigid, out of touch or old-fashioned? </li> <li>Does he encourage your daughter’s relationship with you as her parents — or does he pull her away from you, encouraging your daughter to be sneaky or keep secrets? Is he drawing her into things that are compromising her relationship with you or her walk with the Lord? In other words, does he lead her in the paths of righteousness or cause her to stumble? At some point, you will be helping your daughter choose a man who will be her leader, provider and protector. Do you observe the potential for these things in this young man?</li> </ul> Having a good chat between Dad and the young man, before emotions are overly engaged is essential. Even if Dad says, “No” to a particular suitor and your daughter becomes distraught, hang tough. It is a precious and pure demonstration of a father’s leading, provision and protection over his daughter. Some day he will consent and will essentially transfer this responsibility to his new son-in-law. Don’t give in to the emotional pleadings of your daughter if you KNOW the relationship is not in her best interest. May the Lord bless your relationship as you grow together in directing your daughter down the path of making one of the most critical choices in her life. Show her how much you care for her and love her. And I pray that she will trust you as you seek the Lord in these decisions. <img alt="" width="235" height="117" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Betsy%20Signature.png" /> Dear Betsy, We have a 17 year old teen who has asked to start dating. The boy she likes is very nice, but she is unsure if he is a Christian. She argues that it is hard to have in-depth conversations if she’s never alone with him, but we are reluctant to give her the OK to go out with him if we don’t know if he’s a believer or not. What do you suggest? - Concerned Mother Dear Concerned, When your daughter reaches the age that you determine as fitting for her to date; be sure that you have also established clear delineations for dating, such as “how often," “how late,” “with whom” and so forth. The “with whom” part is extremely important not only for the obvious immediate impact and implications on your daughter’s life but also for her future. Therefore, whether you hold the conviction that “dating is for the purpose of choosing a mate” (meaning that every suitor is evaluated as a potential spouse) or you hold the conviction that “dating is a testing ground for various relationships that eventually lead to choosing a spouse,” you want to have clear guidelines to keep your teen’s relational ship from succumbing to the heavy emotional waves that are sure to come during these dating years. Certainly we want the best for our children, and as parents we are often the best objective voice of reason to them. We cannot place particular boundaries around their emotions but we can and must place guidelines and boundaries around their choices. They need to know that we have their optimal benefit in mind and to seek your approval before their heart engages in a relationship that you do not approve. The Scriptures tell us (2 Corinthians 6:14) not to become unequally yoked with unbelievers, referring primarily to the marriage relationship, but we would not want to set up our teen to have a relationship that could eventually result in marriage to an unbeliever. Allowing a teen to dabble in relationships with unbelievers is playing with fire — no matter how “nice” he seems. A young man may seem nice, polite and all that, but does he hold the same standards as you do for your daughter in the areas of morality, purity, media choices, speech and so forth? An unbeliever simply will not. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns us very directly, “Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals.” Being “nice” or “a great guy” falls desperately short of the godly young man who (while also young and susceptible to emotions/hormones) hopefully has your daughter’s best interest at heart and respects you as her parents. In other words, Christian kids need accountability, too! Many young men interested in lovely young ladies will declare their belief in God thinking if they say the right words they will “win the prize.” This happens all too often, I am sad to say. Often young couples marry only to discover in time that they are unequally yoked. Any worthy young suitor should be happy and willing to speak to a young lady’s father/parents for permission to date. It is not a private matter between the young man and your daughter. That argument should raise a red flag for you. His willingness to speak to you as the parents demonstrates his respect — or lack thereof — for you and your husband. A person may refer to himself as a believer, but this falls short of a profession of faith in Christ.... Modeling Love in our Families http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=286321http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=286321 Tue, 14 Feb 2012 16:00:00 GMT <img alt="" height="163" width="245" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/valentine%20flowers.jpg" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" />I do love receiving a great Valentine from my husband. We spend a good deal of time picking out just the right sentiment and expression of our love and appreciation for each other. But I have discovered over the years that these cards are more than mere expressions, they are demonstrations of our commitment in words. If we look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 phrase by phrase, we can begin to apply the traits of love to specific aspects of relationships with people, especially those in our families: <ul> <li> Love is patient and gentle with people.</li> <li> Love is kind and gracious to people.</li> <li> Love is not jealous or envious of others.</li> <li> Love is not prideful, haughty boastful or bragging when talking to others.</li> <li> Love does not act unbecomingly, rudely, or selfishly when working with others.</li> <li> Love is not irritable, touchy, or demanding of its own way.</li> <li> Love does not remember every wrong thing you ever did; it does not take personal offense. Love does not harbor bitterness, resentment or hold grudges.</li> <li> Love is devoted to truth; it take no pleasure in someone else's sin. It is never glad about injustice, but rather rejoices when truth wins out.</li> <li> Love is loyal despite difficult times or sacrifice.</li> <li> Love says, "I believe the best about you. I expect your best and I will defend you, endure with you, and protect you in 'all things.'"</li> </ul> Our love for others is fully love when it is acted out, when it is more than just what we feel. We show that no matter what the world throws our way, we are committed to each other -- the whole year through! I do love receiving a great Valentine from my husband. We spend a good deal of time picking out just the right sentiment and expression of our love and appreciation for each other. But I have discovered over the years that these cards are more than mere expressions, they are demonstrations of our commitment in words. If we look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 phrase by phrase, we can begin to apply the traits of love to specific aspects of relationships with people, especially those in our families: Love is patient and gentle with people. Love is kind and gracious to people. Love is not jealous or envious of others. Love is not prideful, haughty boastful or bragging when talking to others. Love does not act unbecomingly, rudely, or selfishly when working with others. Love is not irritable, touchy, or demanding of its own way. Love does not remember every wrong thing you ever did; it does not take personal offense. Love does not harbor bitterness, resentment or hold grudges. Love is devoted to truth; it take no pleasure in someone else's sin. It is never glad about injustice, but rather rejoices when truth wins out. Love is loyal despite difficult times or sacrifice. Love says, "I believe the best about you. I expect your best and I will defend you, endure with you, and protect you in 'all things.'" Our love for others is fully love when it is acted out, when it is more than just what we feel. We show that no matter what the world throws our way, we are committed to each other -- the whole year through! Leaving a Sweet Impression http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=285746http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=285746 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:00:00 GMT <img alt="" height="214" width="322" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/2012/Blog%20Images/friend.jpg" />"Here we go round the mulberry bush… pop goes the weasel!"   "Did I really just sing that? WHERE did I pick it up from?" I asked my husband, laughing. It just seemed to suddenly be stuck in my mind.  Retracing my steps, I quickly realized that one of our little girls had been singing it as I passed by her on my way downstairs. Now without even realizing it, I had picked it up and had started singing too.   As I thought about this, I realized that people can stay in my mind in a similar way. After spending time with certain friends, I'm left with specific ideas and feelings still replaying in my thoughts. With my dearest friends, topics such as following the Lord, loving our families, and seeking to bring the wisdom of God's Word into our everyday circumstances flow in and out of our conversations to the extent that they remain with me throughout the day. I leave these friends feeling renewed and refocused.   Do you have a friend like this? If so, you are blessed! Prioritize time with these friends and take the time to tell them how much they mean to you and how you value their presence in your life.   Are you a friend like that to others? If not, a great way to begin is by looking for friends who share your values for loving God and loving others. People with these values often gravitate toward God's Word and serving others -- so try looking for them in church Bible studies and ministries. Then look for ways to spend time together so you begin to know, enjoy, and encourage each other.   "And Jonathan, Saul's son, rose and went to David at Horesh, and strengthened his hand in God." 1 Sam 23:16 "Here we go round the mulberry bush… pop goes the weasel!" "Did I really just sing that? WHERE did I pick it up from?" I asked my husband, laughing. It just seemed to suddenly be stuck in my mind. Retracing my steps, I quickly realized that one of our little girls had been singing it as I passed by her on my way downstairs. Now without even realizing it, I had picked it up and had started singing too. As I thought about this, I realized that people can stay in my mind in a similar way. After spending time with certain friends, I'm left with specific ideas and feelings still replaying in my thoughts. With my dearest friends, topics such as following the Lord, loving our families, and seeking to bring the wisdom of God's Word into our everyday circumstances flow in and out of our conversations to the extent that they remain with me throughout the day. I leave these friends feeling renewed and refocused. Do you have a friend like this? If so, you are blessed! Prioritize time with these friends and take the time to tell them how much they mean to you and how you value their presence in your life. Are you a friend like that to others? If not, a great way to begin is by looking for friends who share your values for loving God and loving others. People with these values often gravitate toward God's Word and serving others -- so try looking for them in church Bible studies and ministries. Then look for ways to spend time together so you begin to know, enjoy, and encourage each other. "And Jonathan, Saul's son, rose and went to David at Horesh, and strengthened his hand in God." 1 Sam 23:16 Explaining the Gospel to Children http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=268329http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=268329 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 16:00:00 GMT <img alt="" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/maggie_GodPic.JPG" style="width: 314px; height: 235px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" />During one of my first conversations with my then-preschool- aged daughter about Christ and her need for salvation, she was lying in my lap looking up at me. The perfect scenario for my precious little girl to learn about the Gospel, I thought. But soon after I started explaining in my very best kid-friendly theology, she became distracted. Still looking up at me from my lap, she announced,"Mom? Did you know that you have tiny hairs inside your nose?" The second time she brought up questions about salvation, we were only a couple sentences into the conversation, when she noticed, "Look Mom -- I have lines on my toe!" Talking to kids with short attention spans about these somewhat abstract ideas can be challenging. So one way we tried to help our little girls understand the Gospel was to create a gulf of sin right in our family room. Here's how you can do the same. Item(s) Needed: Colored Tape Preparation: Place one long line of colored tape on one side of a room representing God and another line of tape at the opposite end of the room representing "me." Then using the tape again, spell out the word, "sin" in the middle to illustrate how our sin separates us from God. <img alt="" height="401" width="300" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/kid%20theology.jpg" style="vertical-align: top;" /> Lesson: Next allow your children to try and cross from one line to the other -- they can hop, jump, skip or dive. Ours even tried cheating by shimmying along the couch. One word of caution, don't underestimate how far little legs can jump -- put the lines far apart to avoid their actually making it across to God! Talk to your kids about ways people might try and get to God on their own. Then read Romans 3:23 together to explain how even with our very best efforts, we still fall short of God. Next read Romans 5:8 and 6:23 together to show them how Christ died for us to make a way for us to be with God. Use the tape to make a cross from one side of the "divide" to the other to help them see how only Jesus can take away our sin and make a way to God. Kids will enjoy helping you mark the cross with tape and balancing on the narrow lines to make their way over to the other side. <img alt="" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/kid%20theology2.jpg" style="vertical-align: top;" /> If your children are still following, you can spend some time talking about how we receive this gift by admitting that we have sinned and deserve death and and about how we can receive God's gift of salvation in Christ. We can do this by repenting or turning away from our sin and trusting in Him for salvation. Closing Prayer: If your child understands and is ready, guide him or her through a prayer to place their faith in Christ. However if they are not ready to respond, don't push the decision. Instead pray for the Spirit to continue whispering Truth to their hearts in ways they will understand. Then be ready to continue taking opportunities to respond to questions. Even if you only get a few sentences of simple explanation into them before they trail off to random notions such as nose hairs or toe lines, you can still know that you are laying an important foundation for their growing faith! <hr /> Do you have a practical way of helping children understand the Gospel? If so, please share it by commenting below. During one of my first conversations with my then-preschool- aged daughter about Christ and her need for salvation, she was lying in my lap looking up at me. The perfect scenario for my precious little girl to learn about the Gospel, I thought. But soon after I started explaining in my very best kid-friendly theology, she became distracted. Still looking up at me from my lap, she announced, "Mom? Did you know that you have tiny hairs inside your nose?" The second time she brought up questions about salvation, we were only a couple sentences into the conversation, when she noticed, "Look Mom -- I have lines on my toe!" Talking to kids with short attention spans about these somewhat abstract ideas can be challenging. So one way we tried to help our little girls understand the Gospel was to create a gulf of sin right in our family room. Here's how you can do the same. Item(s) Needed: Colored Tape Preparation: Place one long line of colored tape on one side of a room representing God and another line of tape at the opposite end of the room representing "me." Then using the tape again, spell out the word, "sin" in the middle to illustrate how our sin separates us from God. Lesson: Next allow your children to try and cross from one line to the other -- they can hop, jump, skip or dive. Ours even tried cheating by shimmying along the couch. One word of caution, don't underestimate how far little legs can jump -- put the lines far apart to avoid their actually making it across to God! Talk to your kids about ways people might try and get to God on their own. Then read Romans 3:23 together to explain how even with our very best efforts, we still fall short of God. Next read Romans 5:8 and 6:23 together to show them how Christ died for us to make a way for us to be with God. Use the tape to make a cross from one side of the "divide" to the other to help them see how only Jesus can take away our sin and make a way to God. Kids will enjoy helping you mark the cross with tape and balancing on the narrow lines to make their way over to the other side. If your children are still following, you can spend some time talking about how we receive this gift by admitting that we have sinned and deserve death and and about how we can receive God's gift of salvation in Christ. We can do this by repenting or turning away from our sin and trusting in Him for salvation. Closing Prayer: If your child understands and is ready, guide him or her through a prayer to place their faith in Christ. However if they are not ready to respond, don't push the decision. Instead pray for the Spirit to continue whispering Truth to their hearts in ways they will understand. Then be ready to continue taking opportunities to respond to questions. Even if you only get a few sentences of simple explanation into them before they trail off to random notions such as nose hairs or toe lines, you can still know that you are laying an important foundation for their growing faith! Do you have a practical way of helping children understand the Gospel? If so, please share it by commenting below. Silver Platters http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=283510http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=283510 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:00:00 GMT <img alt="" style="width: 249px; height: 174px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/silver%20platter.jpg" />I believe that the Lord gives us (and so do our children!) special opportunities to build into their lives. We might also refer to them as “teachable moments,” those moments ripe for training, connecting, and reinforcing life lessons. It is so important that we are watchful as parents to recognize these opportunities when they present themselves. As Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, they may pop up anywhere and anyplace, so be prepared to grab hold of these special occasions. Often though, we can find ourselves distracted or even unaware of what our children are doing, thinking, or feeling. It is wise to evaluate how attentive we are able to be and why. Certainly a new baby in the family or even unusual demands of life, commitments or ministry opportunities can “bottleneck”; but how do we typically respond to these opportunities and what is our long-term goal for building a lasting connection and relationship with our children?  Sometimes these special opportunities may call for discipline or full-circle intervention (as explained in Entrusted with a Child’s Heart, pp. 210-212 and 249). Sometime we miss meeting a simple need, a “call for help” or dismiss an act of disobedience/poor attitude because we don’t believe it is serious enough or important enough to warrant our attention at the time. As a result we often miss the opportunity presented. We may think, “If it is a big enough deal, it will come back up.” And to be sure, it does, as a bigger deal. Has your toddler just reacted to your discipline with a cry of "You don't love me!" Has your middle schooler just asked you if you ever tried drugs? Has your teenager mentioned a certain someone of the opposite sex that has caught their eye? Any of these comments can easily get lost in the busyness of a typical day but they are truly priceless opportunities not only to teach our children important principles, but also to continue to build that precious connection. It takes time to be watchful. It takes practice to be careful listeners and intentional trainers. I like to think of these teachable moments as “silver platters” presenting us with golden opportunities for building into our children. As you observe your children today, see if they are holding out a silver platter of opportunity to you. Take full advantage of these times by stopping what you are doing, going to them, and addressing the situation. And may the Lord bless that precious connection between you. <hr /> Proverbs 25:11, “Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances." Deuteronomy 6:6-7, “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” I believe that the Lord gives us (and so do our children!) special opportunities to build into their lives. We might also refer to them as “teachable moments,” those moments ripe for training, connecting, and reinforcing life lessons. It is so important that we are watchful as parents to recognize these opportunities when they present themselves. As Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, they may pop up anywhere and anyplace, so be prepared to grab hold of these special occasions. Often though, we can find ourselves distracted or even unaware of what our children are doing, thinking, or feeling. It is wise to evaluate how attentive we are able to be and why. Certainly a new baby in the family or even unusual demands of life, commitments or ministry opportunities can “bottleneck”; but how do we typically respond to these opportunities and what is our long-term goal for building a lasting connection and relationship with our children? Sometimes these special opportunities may call for discipline or full-circle intervention (as explained in Entrusted with a Child’s Heart , pp. 210-212 and 249). Sometime we miss meeting a simple need, a “call for help” or dismiss an act of disobedience/poor attitude because we don’t believe it is serious enough or important enough to warrant our attention at the time. As a result we often miss the opportunity presented. We may think, “If it is a big enough deal, it will come back up.” And to be sure, it does, as a bigger deal. Has your toddler just reacted to your discipline with a cry of "You don't love me!" Has your middle schooler just asked you if you ever tried drugs? Has your teenager mentioned a certain someone of the opposite sex that has caught their eye? Any of these comments can easily get lost in the busyness of a typical day but they are truly priceless opportunities not only to teach our children important principles, but also to continue to build that precious connection. It takes time to be watchful. It takes practice to be careful listeners and intentional trainers. I like to think of these teachable moments as “silver platters” presenting us with golden opportunities for building into our children. As you observe your children today, see if they are holding out a silver platter of opportunity to you. Take full advantage of these times by stopping what you are doing, going to them, and addressing the situation. And may the Lord bless that precious connection between you. Proverbs 25:11, “Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances." Deuteronomy 6:6-7, “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” God's Word Lights Our Path http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=271573http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=271573 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 15:00:00 GMT <img alt="" height="312" width="222" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/flashlight%20small.jpg" />Key Verse: Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Psalm 119:105 Items Needed: A Flashlight for each child Preparation: Set up an obstacle course in your house using tipped over chairs, blankets, cushions, and other objects. Use your creativity to make it fun and challenging for your child to cross. Turn out the lights. Lesson: Call your children into the room and have them attempt to cross through the dark path using only their flashlight. For older children, you may want to allow them to attempt passing through it first without any light. Next talk about how dark the world is without Christ. God's Word provides light for us as we pass through life. It gives us direction, encouragement, and hope. It tells us who we are, Who God is, how we have sinned, and how to find forgiveness in Christ. It also gives us instructions for living and a description of what living in eternity with God will be like. Application (Discuss one or more of the following): <ul> <li> We need God's Word in this dark world, and we are so grateful for it. </li> <li> What are some of the ways that God's Word gives light (or direction/ guidance) to our path?</li> <li> In what ways can we use God's Word to light our path? In what ways do we neglect it?</li> </ul> Activities for Further Discussion: <ul> <li> Read through Psalm 119 together to find some of the words the Psalmist uses to describe God's Word.</li> <li> Read a biography together about a missionary who took God's Word to a dark part of the world -- such as Jim Elliott, Nate Saint, Hudson Taylor, or Amy Carmichael.</li> <li> Learn how God's Word continues to bring light to dark places around the world by reading a story together from the <a href="http://www.bibleleague.org">Bible League International</a>.</li> </ul>      Closing Prayer: Thank God for the blessing of His Word. It is a light to our dark path in this world and a way to know and love Him. Ask Him to help your child prioritize His Truth and allow it to shape their view of everything in life. Pray that God's Word will grow wisdom in their hearts as they learn to see the connection between biblical truths and their everyday life. <hr /> For more fun activities to teach your children eternal truths, check out the rest of our <a href="http://www.entrustedministries.com/10186/blogarchive/blog_id/26648/tag/Eternal%20Truths%20in%20Everyday%20Life/Blog-Archive">Eternal Truths in Everyday Life </a>articles. Key Verse: Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Psalm 119:105 Items Needed: A Flashlight for each child Preparation: Set up an obstacle course in your house using tipped over chairs, blankets, cushions, and other objects. Use your creativity to make it fun and challenging for your child to cross. Turn out the lights. Lesson: Call your children into the room and have them attempt to cross through the dark path using only their flashlight. For older children, you may want to allow them to attempt passing through it first without any light. Next talk about how dark the world is without Christ. God's Word provides light for us as we pass through life. It gives us direction, encouragement, and hope. It tells us who we are, Who God is, how we have sinned, and how to find forgiveness in Christ. It also gives us instructions for living and a description of what living in eternity with God will be like. Application (Discuss one or more of the following): We need God's Word in this dark world, and we are so grateful for it. What are some of the ways that God's Word gives light (or direction/ guidance) to our path? In what ways can we use God's Word to light our path? In what ways do we neglect it? Activities for Further Discussion: Read through Psalm 119 together to find some of the words the Psalmist uses to describe God's Word. Read a biography together about a missionary who took God's Word to a dark part of the world -- such as Jim Elliott, Nate Saint, Hudson Taylor, or Amy Carmichael. Learn how God's Word continues to bring light to dark places around the world by reading a story together from the Bible League International . Closing Prayer: Thank God for the blessing of His Word. It is a light to our dark path in this world and a way to know and love Him. Ask Him to help your child prioritize His Truth and allow it to shape their view of everything in life. Pray that God's Word will grow wisdom in their hearts as they learn to see the connection between biblical truths and their everyday life. For more fun activities to teach your children eternal truths, check out the rest of our Eternal Truths in Everyday Life articles. How to Help Children Deal with Anger? http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=273461http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=273461 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 16:00:00 GMT <h3><img alt="" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/young%20boy.jpg" style="width: 250px; height: 250px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" />Dear Betsy,</h3> I have a 6-year-old son who has struggled with anger and control issues since he was 3 years old. As a result, to this day he will stamp his feet, flail his arms and either cry, whine or complain in an angry tone VERY loudly when something disappoints him (most often, when he has to stop what he is doing, and switch to a new activity). I have begun to spank him every time he exhibits this behavior but I don’t feel comfortable doing that. Am I being controlling in trying to force him to stop, and eventually through maturity and growth in Christ he will stop without me spanking? He has shown fruit - that the Holy Spirit is in him. Often I will send him to his room to pray and “ask Jesus to help you WANT to have a good attitude.” He will come down with a completely changed attitude and behavior for the rest of the day. Am I being too harsh? Sincerely, Concerned Mom <h3>Dear Concerned:</h3> We all deal with control issues as we learn humility, self-control, and other fruits of a disciplined life. These things are not “givens”; they are not guaranteed with age and will not automatically be characteristic of a person’s life even if they are an adult believer. That is why we have such an amazing stewardship of our children. God is entrusting us to train them in these things and more. Discipline but Don't Exasperate. Be assured that every mother relates to being schooled in this one at some time or other! When children disobey they need to be disciplined. They need to learn how to bring their will under yours and see you as their authority. However children are tender little people who desire and need a close bond with their parents. And we have to be careful not to go so far as to exasperate or "provoke them to anger" (Ephesians 6:4). Children want to please us and they are crushed in spirit when they sense our disappointment. But biblical discipline is divinely humane as it brings the offender and the offended back into fellowship and makes a way for the sin/disobedience to be dealt with for good. That is why it is so important to address willful disobedience in a young child and that he understand that he has a way back -- a way to make things right again. Going Full Circle. Our Heavenly Father deals with us in much the same way so that as sinful beings we can be cleansed and live in fellowship with Him. 1 John 1:9 assures us that, “if we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” In Entrusted with a Child’s Heart, we refer to this way back as “going full-circle” in discipline which means that when we sin, <ul> <li>we admit and take responsibility for it, </li> <li>we make amends and are restored, </li> <li>we know the right choice to make if the situation comes up again, and </li> <li>we are forgiven and restored.</li> </ul> (See the lesson “Committed to Discipline” for further reading on this topic or check our website archives for related articles.) However if children do not understand their discipline or if their discipline is not taken full-circle, there will be a breakdown between the parent and child. When this happens, the child or the parent may become embittered against the other (even parents can become exasperated!).  Hence a downward spiral that further disconnects the parent and child can begin. If we are not watchful or protective of this special bond all sorts of “interesting behaviors” may erupt. Be Sensitive to your Child's Temperament. Sometimes I call this kind of exasperation in children simply being “undone.” And here is where we add another consideration into the mix – your child’s temperament. I did not mention this upfront because it is secondary to the training that God desires for His children regardless of their temperament. Children can have different thresholds of when they “undo” or become exasperated, but we still have a duty to teach them to be self disciplined and controlled so that they don’t manipulate you to the point of giving up and not carrying through to discipline. In other words, don’t be tempted to excuse his behavior because of “temperament.” Children may be strong-willed, compliant or withdrawn, but we still need to be watchful of their <a href="http://www.entrustedministries.com/BlogEntry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=200760">wills, minds, and emotions</a>. Plan Ahead. I encourage you to spend some time thinking and praying through your plan ahead of time so that you can be “comfortable” in your discipline with your children. When you are not, they may sense that and take control of the situation through various manipulative techniques. But in any case, you must take your son full-circle and help him understand what is occurring through it. He needs to learn that you are consistent and committed to his maturity in all aspects. Cool Down Time. Sometimes spanking is not the answer, but the child is still accountable for sinful behavior and the full-circle will address this. If they are particularly “undone” they may need a bit of quiet time to ponder their situation. This is one of those rare situations that such a “time out” may be appropriate. Five-Minute Warnings. When you tell him it is time to stop, you might instead say, “Five minute warning” meaning in five minutes you are to stop. His response needs to be “Okay, Mom” indicating that he heard you and that when you say time is up, it is up. You can even make a game of practicing this in situations that are not so difficult to stop. Give him opportunities to learn to “make the right choice” and have success so that you are not exhausted with constantly feeling as if you are having to discipline or correct him. Do-overs Allowed. I know a young mother of four with one son who seems to struggle more than the rest of her children when he encounters sudden “changes in direction” and so forth as you mentioned. She sometimes says to her son, “You can have a do-over. This doesn’t have to effect the rest of your day,” meaning you can choose right now to have a proper response going forward. Knowing there is a way to work through to a right conclusion and a new start reassures the child who knows his life has just spun out of control. In fact, once when this child was told “tomorrow is a new day,” he responded, “I don’t want to wait until tomorrow, I want to start now.”  What a sweet response in the heart of the child who is learning to make the right choices and defeat his own defiant will. The wisdom of this young mother reveals her understanding of her child’s need for tenderness and accountability. This is what training does over time but it is a long process, a lifelong process. May the Lord bless you in the process. <img alt="" height="132" width="264" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Betsy%20Signature.png" /> Dear Betsy, I have a 6-year-old son who has struggled with anger and control issues since he was 3 years old. As a result, to this day he will stamp his feet, flail his arms and either cry, whine or complain in an angry tone VERY loudly when something disappoints him (most often, when he has to stop what he is doing, and switch to a new activity). I have begun to spank him every time he exhibits this behavior but I don’t feel comfortable doing that. Am I being controlling in trying to force him to stop, and eventually through maturity and growth in Christ he will stop without me spanking? He has shown fruit - that the Holy Spirit is in him. Often I will send him to his room to pray and “ask Jesus to help you WANT to have a good attitude.” He will come down with a completely changed attitude and behavior for the rest of the day. Am I being too harsh? Sincerely, Concerned Mom Dear Concerned: We all deal with control issues as we learn humility, self-control, and other fruits of a disciplined life. These things are not “givens”; they are not guaranteed with age and will not automatically be characteristic of a person’s life even if they are an adult believer. That is why we have such an amazing stewardship of our children. God is entrusting us to train them in these things and more. Discipline but Don't Exasperate. Be assured that every mother relates to being schooled in this one at some time or other! When children disobey they need to be disciplined. They need to learn how to bring their will under yours and see you as their authority. However children are tender little people who desire and need a close bond with their parents. And we have to be careful not to go so far as to exasperate or "provoke them to anger" (Ephesians 6:4). Children want to please us and they are crushed in spirit when they sense our disappointment. But biblical discipline is divinely humane as it brings the offender and the offended back into fellowship and makes a way for the sin/disobedience to be dealt with for good. That is why it is so important to address willful disobedience in a young child and that he understand that he has a way back -- a way to make things right again. Going Full Circle. Our Heavenly Father deals with us in much the same way so that as sinful beings we can be cleansed and live in fellowship with Him. 1 John 1:9 assures us that, “if we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” In Entrusted with a Child’s Heart , we refer to this way back as “going full-circle” in discipline which means that when we sin, we admit and take responsibility for it, we make amends and are restored, we know the right choice to make if the situation comes up again, and we are forgiven and restored. (See the lesson “Committed to Discipline” for further reading on this topic or check our website archives for related articles.) However if children do not understand their discipline or if their discipline is not taken full-circle, there will be a breakdown between the parent and child. When this happens, the child or the parent may become embittered against the other (even parents can become exasperated!). Hence a downward spiral that further disconnects the parent and child can begin. If we are not watchful or protective of this special bond all sorts of “interesting behaviors” may erupt. Be Sensitive to your... Celebrating Life -- A Busy Mom's Response to Entrusted's “Tips Day” http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=283096http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=283096 Fri, 20 Jan 2012 15:00:00 GMT <img alt="" height="203" width="307" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/files.jpg" />In our Entrusted group, we recently enjoyed the "Tips Day" video in which Betsy shares her creative “out-of-the-box” ideas such as how to turn an old muffin tin into a paint easel and sort laundry with color-coded hangers. But honestly, the very first time I heard “Tips Day” taught live by Betsy over 11 years ago, I was overwhelmed. The ideas all sounded so good, so practical, so fun, but I was exhausted with just trying to figure out how I could muster up the extra time and energy to actually implement these tips. I had a hard time just getting my three kids dressed, fed and off to school each morning with a half-decent lunch and their homework done! However, fast-forward 11 years and now as an “older, wiser mom,” who has heard Betsy’s “Tips Day” well over six times, I have learned not to get overwhelmed, but to really enjoy the journey of what it means to “build unity and order” in my often busy and chaotic home with six active children now ages 4 to 17. As I reflect on how Betsy’s annual “Tips Day” has influenced me as a wife and mom over this last decade, I wanted to share three main insights that “clunked me over the head” during our class last week. Sometimes God has to do that to us to get our attention, especially for those of us who may have a very driven personality and a tendency to be task / performance-oriented. 1. Be realistic! I realized after hearing my first “Tips Day” that it took Betsy over 20 years of parenting her own three children to test, create and collect all of her many “tips” that she shares. It was so unrealistic for me to try to implement all or even many of her creative ideas overnight. I needed to accept the reality that I, too, like Betsy, will have many tips and ideas to share after 20 years of parenting… Instead of being discouraged, each year God has been calling me to just think about, pray about and implement one or two new tips during each particular season of life. This simple idea has helped to inspire me to do what I can, and not focus on the many things I cannot do. Over the last 11 years, I am excited to share that there is so much more unity and order in our home because of this simple discipline and Betsy’s tips and ideas I have been able to put in place – like “school files” and “family Sundays.” 2. Be honest! I also had to admit that some moms are more creative than others. On a scale of 1 to 10, measuring creativity versus practicality, I would have to rate Betsy as a 20+ in creativity and me a 20+ in practicality. In other words, we are at opposite ends of this spectrum! I realized that this was why I was so drawn to her organizational tips, and much less enthusiastic about her creative ones – which included any type of art or mess. Over the years, God has really humbled and challenged me in this area to not always be so practical (and in control) but learn to expect the messes and mistakes my kids WILL make, and to be prepared to graciously and patiently help them clean up. I felt a huge sense of victory as I actually enjoyed making a clay diorama several years ago and digging for worms with my boys this past summer. 3. Celebrate life! The most surprising insight I gained from “Tips Day” last week was the simple and powerful theme of “celebrating life.” I was convicted that I could get so focused on always wanting to do everything in the best or most efficient and practical way, thereby losing sight of the true purpose of these wonderful tips and ideas, which is to “build unity and order” so we can celebrate the loved ones in our lives. The false thinking that I can’t really have fun with my children, unless and until my house is in order has been a constant challenge for me. Instead, these creative tips help us to manage our homes and put ideas and systems in place so we can have the time and energy to truly enjoy our kids and just have fun! The Lord is faithful to help us in our weaknesses. This year in 2012, I am excited to make each of our birthdays extra special! I even took our three little boys sledding yesterday for the first time this winter, complete with cupcakes and hot chocolate, even though my kitchen was quite a mess and there was lots of laundry to do! We had so much fun - our boys couldn’t stop hugging and kissing me all afternoon in pure gratitude. Thanks, Betsy, for “Tips Day” and for teaching us how to celebrate life in the midst of challenges, chaos and endless chores! In our Entrusted group, we recently enjoyed the "Tips Day" video in which Betsy shares her creative “out-of-the-box” ideas such as how to turn an old muffin tin into a paint easel and sort laundry with color-coded hangers. But honestly, the very first time I heard “Tips Day” taught live by Betsy over 11 years ago, I was overwhelmed. The ideas all sounded so good, so practical, so fun, but I was exhausted with just trying to figure out how I could muster up the extra time and energy to actually implement these tips. I had a hard time just getting my three kids dressed, fed and off to school each morning with a half-decent lunch and their homework done! However, fast-forward 11 years and now as an “older, wiser mom,” who has heard Betsy’s “Tips Day” well over six times, I have learned not to get overwhelmed, but to really enjoy the journey of what it means to “build unity and order” in my often busy and chaotic home with six active children now ages 4 to 17. As I reflect on how Betsy’s annual “Tips Day” has influenced me as a wife and mom over this last decade, I wanted to share three main insights that “clunked me over the head” during our class last week. Sometimes God has to do that to us to get our attention, especially for those of us who may have a very driven personality and a tendency to be task / performance-oriented. 1. Be realistic! I realized after hearing my first “Tips Day” that it took Betsy over 20 years of parenting her own three children to test, create and collect all of her many “tips” that she shares. It was so unrealistic for me to try to implement all or even many of her creative ideas overnight. I needed to accept the reality that I, too, like Betsy, will have many tips and ideas to share after 20 years of parenting… Instead of being discouraged, each year God has been calling me to just think about, pray about and implement one or two new tips during each particular season of life. This simple idea has helped to inspire me to do what I can, and not focus on the many things I cannot do. Over the last 11 years, I am excited to share that there is so much more unity and order in our home because of this simple discipline and Betsy’s tips and ideas I have been able to put in place – like “school files” and “family Sundays.” 2. Be honest! I also had to admit that some moms are more creative than others. On a scale of 1 to 10, measuring creativity versus practicality, I would have to rate Betsy as a 20+ in creativity and me a 20+ in practicality. In other words, we are at opposite ends of this spectrum! I realized that this was why I was so drawn to her organizational tips, and much less enthusiastic about her creative ones – which included any type of art or mess. Over the years, God has really humbled and challenged me in this area to not always be so practical (and in control) but learn to expect the messes and mistakes my kids WILL make, and to be prepared to graciously and patiently help them clean up. I felt a huge sense of victory as I actually enjoyed making a clay diorama several years ago and digging for worms with my boys this past summer. 3. Celebrate life! The most surprising insight I gained from “Tips Day” last week was the simple and powerful theme of “celebrating life.” I was convicted that I could get so focused... MOPS Group -- Immanuel Lutheran http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=282755http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=282755 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:00:00 GMT <img alt="" style="width: 249px; height: 186px; float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/MOPS%20Immanuel.jpg" />This past week Betsy had the pleasure of addressing the MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group at Immanuel Lutheran Church in Crystal Lake, IL. It was truly a privilege to spend the morning with these young moms (and some older ones, too!) as Betsy passed on many helpful tips on the topic of discipline. Gina Cho, from our Entrusted staff, also spoke briefly on how Entrusted with a Child’s Heart has encouraged her as a mother over the past ten years. Thank you, MOPS and Immanuel Lutheran for this wonderful opportunity! This past week Betsy had the pleasure of addressing the MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group at Immanuel Lutheran Church in Crystal Lake, IL. It was truly a privilege to spend the morning with these young moms (and some older ones, too!) as Betsy passed on many helpful tips on the topic of discipline. Gina Cho, from our Entrusted staff, also spoke briefly on how Entrusted with a Child’s Heart has encouraged her as a mother over the past ten years. Thank you, MOPS and Immanuel Lutheran for this wonderful opportunity! Aunt Martha's Chili http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=282422http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=282422 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 15:00:00 GMT My Aunt Martha shared this recipe with me when I was first married, and it’s the only chili recipe I have ever used. If you make it the day before, the flavors get even better. And I usually double the recipe to serve for another meal later in the week or freeze for another dinner on those days I don't have time to cook. <img alt="" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/chili_auntmartha.jpg" /> 1 lb. ground beef or ground chuck 2 16 oz. cans dark red kidney beans, drained 1 green or red pepper, chopped 1 onion, chopped 1 16 oz. can crushed tomatoes 1 8 oz. can tomato sauce 1 T. chili powder 1 1/2 tsp. salt Brown ground beef, onion and green pepper in large pot until meat is browned and onion and pepper are softened. Add remaining ingredients, stir and cover pot. Simmer for 1 1/2 hours, stirring occasionally. Note: This recipe works well in a crock pot. I sometimes add a little more tomato sauce to the recipe if it looks too dry. It's also fun to make a chili bar by filling bowls with shredded Mexican cheese, sour cream, chopped scallions, <a href="http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?entry_id=253748">Rufina's Homemade Salsa</a>, and guacamole, along with a basket filled with tortilla chips. Your family, or dinner guests, will enjoy building their own bowl of chili.   My Aunt Martha shared this recipe with me when I was first married, and it’s the only chili recipe I have ever used. If you make it the day before, the flavors get even better. And I usually double the recipe to serve for another meal later in the week or freeze for another dinner on those days I don't have time to cook. 1 lb. ground beef or ground chuck 2 16 oz. cans dark red kidney beans, drained 1 green or red pepper, chopped 1 onion, chopped 1 16 oz. can crushed tomatoes 1 8 oz. can tomato sauce 1 T. chili powder 1 1/2 tsp. salt Brown ground beef, onion and green pepper in large pot until meat is browned and onion and pepper are softened. Add remaining ingredients, stir and cover pot. Simmer for 1 1/2 hours, stirring occasionally. Note: This recipe works well in a crock pot. I sometimes add a little more tomato sauce to the recipe if it looks too dry. It's also fun to make a chili bar by filling bowls with shredded Mexican cheese, sour cream, chopped scallions, Rufina's Homemade Salsa , and guacamole, along with a basket filled with tortilla chips. Your family, or dinner guests, will enjoy building their own bowl of chili. It Is What's on the Inside that Counts http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=271574http://www.entrustedministries.com/blogentry.aspx?site_id=10186&entry_id=271574 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 15:00:00 GMT <img alt="" height="225" width="225" style="float: left; margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 8px;" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/icecream.jpg" />This is the first in our new series of <a href="http://www.entrustedministries.com/10186/blogentry/entry_id/272758/Eternal_Truths_in_Everyday_Life">Eternal Truths in Everyday Life.</a> We want to provide you with fun, interactive ways to teach Biblical truths to your children in ways that they will understand and remember. Here is one that will teach your children the importance of looking on the inside rather than on the outside -- using ICE CREAM! Have fun. Key Verse: "...for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7b Items Needed: Ice Cream Carton (one large carton for your children or you can get small cartons for each child) Preparation: Before starting the lesson, open the carton of ice cream and secretly empty the ice cream into a storage container. Then fill the emptied ice cream carton with dirt or some other undesirable object. Make sure the container is clean and looks as if it were just purchased. You may even want to put it in the freezer before the lesson so that it has a bit of frost on it. <img alt="" height="239" width="180" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/Ice%20Cream%20Bible%20007.jpg" />    <img alt="" height="241" width="180" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/../Content/10186/Blog%20Images/Ice%20Cream%20Bible%20001.jpg" />    <img alt="" height="240" width="180" src="http://www.entrustedministries.com/Content/10186/Blog%20Images/Ice%20Cream%20Bible%20004.jpg" />    Lesson: Let your children know that you have purchased a special treat for them to enjoy with this Bible lesson. Take out the ice cream and look at the carton together. Talk about how delicious it looks and what is inside. You may even want to do this earlier than you plan on serving some to them in order to build up a sense of anticipation. Ask what they love most about the ice cream and talk about how you look forward to tasting it. When you're ready to serve the special treat. Take out the bowls and ice cream scoop; then have one of your children open the carton. They will be surprised to find what is really inside! Their shock and disappointment lead to an important biblical lesson about how sometimes friends (or even we) may appear to be sweet and good on the outside while on the inside our hearts are ugly, weak, and/or sinful. Or in the opposite way how people may sometime appear weak, small, or somehow unattractive by the world's standards on the outside, but on the inside they are strong and beautiful because they have God's love and power in them. Read 1 Samuel 16:1-13 together to see a clear example of this principle. David's outward appearance showed he was young, less experienced, and smaller than his brothers. But God didn't look at that. Instead He looked at David's heart and saw that he was a mighty warrior worthy of being Israel's future king. David proved this when he later fought against the giant Goliath and won! Now is a good time to reveal the hidden ice cream and make bowls to enjoy together while discussing the application part of this lesson. Application (Discuss one or more of the following; there is enough content here to discuss a little now and more at a different time during the week.): <ul> <li>It is important to examine our own heart to make sure that it is clean before God. For older children, you can discuss the importance of having our beliefs match our thoughts and actions, remembering that God sees all of us.</li> <li>It is important to take some time to know someone, "to look at their heart," before choosing whether or not they would be a good friend.</li> <li>People who look differently than we do, who are smaller, have less physical ability, or have fewer resources than we do may be beautiful and strong on the inside.</li> <li>People who have obvious physical attractiveness, are talented, and/ or popular may be filled with "dirt" on the inside.</li> </ul>      Questions for Further Discussion: <ul> <li>What does a good heart look like? (humble, teachable, kind, obedient, trustworthy…)</li> <li>What does a "dirty" heart look like? (thinks only of self, unkind, lying, disobedient…)</li> </ul>      Closing Prayer: Pray together, thanking God for looking beyond on our outward self and into our hearts. Ask God to continue changing your heart and your child's heart so that it is good and strong. Ask Him to also give your child wisdom to choose friends with good hearts so that they can encourage and strengthen each other toward loving and obeying God. This is the first in our new series of Eternal Truths in Everyday Life. We want to provide you with fun, interactive ways to teach Biblical truths to your children in ways that they will understand and remember. Here is one that will teach your children the importance of looking on the inside rather than on the outside -- using ICE CREAM! Have fun. Key Verse: "...for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7b Items Needed: Ice Cream Carton (one large carton for your children or you can get small cartons for each child) Preparation: Before starting the lesson, open the carton of ice cream and secretly empty the ice cream into a storage container. Then fill the emptied ice cream carton with dirt or some other undesirable object. Make sure the container is clean and looks as if it were just purchased. You may even want to put it in the freezer before the lesson so that it has a bit of frost on it. Lesson: Let your children know that you have purchased a special treat for them to enjoy with this Bible lesson. Take out the ice cream and look at the carton together. Talk about how delicious it looks and what is inside. You may even want to do this earlier than you plan on serving some to them in order to build up a sense of anticipation. Ask what they love most about the ice cream and talk about how you look forward to tasting it. When you're ready to serve the special treat. Take out the bowls and ice cream scoop; then have one of your children open the carton. They will be surprised to find what is really inside! Their shock and disappointment lead to an important biblical lesson about how sometimes friends (or even we) may appear to be sweet and good on the outside while on the inside our hearts are ugly, weak, and/or sinful. Or in the opposite way how people may sometime appear weak, small, or somehow unattractive by the world's standards on the outside, but on the inside they are strong and beautiful because they have God's love and power in them. Read 1 Samuel 16:1-13 together to see a clear example of this principle. David's outward appearance showed he was young, less experienced, and smaller than his brothers. But God didn't look at that. Instead He looked at David's heart and saw that he was a mighty warrior worthy of being Israel's future king. David proved this when he later fought against the giant Goliath and won! Now is a good time to reveal the hidden ice cream and make bowls to enjoy together while discussing the application part of this lesson. Application (Discuss one or more of the following; there is enough content here to discuss a little now and more at a different time during the week.): It is important to examine our own heart to make sure that it is clean before God. For older children, you can discuss the importance of having our beliefs match our thoughts and actions, remembering that God sees all of us. It is important to take some time to know someone, "to look at their heart," before choosing whether or not they would be a good friend. People who look differently than we do, who are smaller, have less physical ability, or have fewer resources than we do may be beautiful and strong on the inside. People who have obvious physical attractiveness, are talented, and/ or popular may be filled with "dirt" on the inside. Questions for Further Discussion: What does a good heart look like? (humble, teachable, kind, obedient, trustworthy…)...