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Hugs and Kisses:

Showing Affection Each and Every Day

February 4, 2022
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Betsy Corning

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Do you show affection to your children every day (even several times a day)? And do they do the same to you? It may be a little kiss on the cheek before they jump out of the car or a hug the first moment you see them in the morning; the point is to show physical affection toward them every day.

If you have gotten out of the habit or have let the hugs fall by the wayside, start back up. Hugs are important! I am deeply convinced of this. Sometimes as our children get a bit older, they may act too grown up to give Mom or Dad a hug, especially in front of someone else. But this is one habit you want to hold onto. Remember to be tender with your children, no matter what their age. It is almost impossible for a child’s heart to stray from you if you keep that connection between you strong. 

If you are in a pattern of showing tenderness to each other, when things are not quite right, it will become immediately apparent. Sometimes when they are in their teens, you might notice a hug that lingers a little longer than usual, and you will know that they need encouragement. Other times you might feel a tightness in the shoulders of a child who is upset or the quick breaths of the child about to cry. The tender moments you share throughout the day keep you in tune with your loved ones. When the habit of tenderness is broken, it's much easier to drift apart.

Appropriate physical touch is also important between fathers and children. Although it may be demonstrated in a variety of ways, such as tickling, chasing, wrestling, or even sports—still, don’t skip the hugs!

Don't forget to verbally express your love on a regular basis, too! If this sounds hard or if you've gotten out of the habit, you can always call across the house, and say to your thirteen-year-old son, "Hey, Sam! Did anyone tell you that they love you today?" Then wait and you will probably hear, "No, Mom." Then you call out, "Well, I love you!" And then you will likely hear, "Thanks, Mom. I love you, too!" Children or teens who do not regularly receive affection or other expressions of love may become exasperated without even realizing why.*

Teach your children that kindness, thoughtfulness, and tenderness are highly valued and a source of great encouragement to you and the rest of the family. Encourage them to share a hug and an "I love you" with one another as well as with their parents. This simple training will also go a long way in minimizing sibling rivalry.


*To learn more about how parents unintentionally exasperate their children, including a helpful quiz, see Chapter 8 in the Entrusted with a Child's Heart book, or Lesson 10 in the Entrusted Video Series for Moms. 

Originally Posted on June 1, 2016 by Betsy Corning.

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